Archive | February, 2011

My Father’s Advice- The Difference Between Boyfriend & Husband

7 Feb

My father and his daughters have a very loving relationship…   I love the fact that I can go to him with any guy problem, and he will provide a very honest outlook and perspective.

Here’s an email forward he had sent us earlier:


A woman writes to the IT Technical support…..

Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and I noticed a distinct slowdown in the overall system performance, particularly in the flower, gifts and jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs such as NEWS 5.0, MONEY 3.0 and CRICKET 4.1.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do?

_______ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ ______

___ _______

DEAR Madam,

First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.

Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme. html and try to downloadTears 6.2 and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update.
If that application works as designed,
Husband1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 and Flowers 3.5..

However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband1.0 to default to Silence 2.5 or Lassi/Sharbat 6.1.
Please note that
Lassi/Sharbat 6.1 is a very bad program that will automatically download & run the Snoring Loudly Beta.

Whatever you do, DO NOT in any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a fatal virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)

In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program or These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software
to improve memory and performance.
We recommend:
Cooking 3.0 and Good Looks 7.7.

Good Luck Madam!

Technical support team


With Love Comes Courage.

6 Feb

Given the current string of uprisings all through out the Middle East, I contemplate an important component vivifying humanity-


Love descends into different forms.


Wondrous courage it takes to stand against misery & oppression contesting humanity.

With Love Comes Courage.  With Courage Comes Love.

True love channelizes a strong energy

Emitting light after darkness.

Why I Love & and What I Love About Being Single. Memoirs of a Single Woman :).

6 Feb

We all hope to find love… Have a happy family… Be surrounded by family & friends. Personally speaking, I hope to marry soon; but I rather wait and find someone who can spiritually and mentally fulfill a peaceful and loving union between one another,  then to rush in to marriage for the sake of just being married.  Being married, and learning how to establish a peaceful union requires skill.  Before taking the responsibility of others, you must learn to love yourself first…

This leads me to say… If your single, ENJOY IT!  LOVE IT!

Benefits Of the Single Life(this list was inspired by another list):

1. Establish your own lifestyle. Discover the passions & hobbies that can keep your spirit happy regardless.

2. Spending is under “your” control.

3. If you buy something “yummy”, you don’t have to buy twice as much..

4. Your late nights are all yours.

5.  Less stuff to move when you do move

6.  Only the doctor can tell you what to eat

7.  You decide what to shave and when

8.  Holidays cost less.

9. No extra family to shop for during the holidays

10. No extra relative (in laws)  relations to juggle.

11. Dressing the way you please, not feeling any pressure..

12. You don’t have to change your life because someone else is insecure.

13.. The only insecurities you have to deal with are your own.

14. Getting that out-of-state job doesn’t hinge on what someone else wants or thinks.

15. The only people complaining about music volume are the neighbors.

16. You can fall asleep anywhere without getting any guff for it in the morning.

17. The only person who goes through your stuff is you.18. The only person who sees your inbox is you.

19. More time to spend with friends.

20. You don’t have to live with someone who can’t stand your parents.

21. If you want to go for pizza at 3am, no one stops you or asks you why.

22.  You still have the option to figure out what kind of people you would like to surround yourself with.

23. The whole wedding drama? Yeah, none of that to deal with.

24. Your closet is your closet.

25. You always get to watch what you want.

26. You always get to read what you want.

27. You decide when to crawl into bed.

28. You can throw yourself into bed and snore/sleep talk without dire consequences.

29. No one else’s annoying (or disgusting) habits to deal with at home.

30. The only fetishes you have to deal with are your own.

31. You can talk to yourself without people saying “what?” or worrying about your sanity.

32. You don’t ever have to wonder if you really love the person you live with.

33. There’s only one way to do things- your way.

34. You are the master of the thermostat.

35. If an argument starts, you can walk away… forever.36. You don’t have to make excuses for yourself.

37.  What you make for dinner is up to YOU.

38. No one else is going to eat your leftovers.

39. No one else is going to raid your stash of sweets (you don’t even have to hide it!)

40. You don’t have to ask for more bed space.

41. You can even eat in bed if you want to.

42. You can decorate the entire house according to your taste.

43. The only person spending your money is you.

44. Three words: Marriage Tax Penalty.

45. The only debts you have to pay off are your own.

46. Bickering couples are at best a relieving reminder and at worst hilarious.

47. It’s easier to focus on your career and your dreams.

48. You’re the only person who gets to decide if you “need to make more money.”

49. The only mood swings you have to deal with are your own.

50. There are a lot ofviolently psychopathic people out there.

51.  You don’t have to change your religious beliefs one bit.

52. There are 6.5 Billion other fish in the sea. That’s 6,500 x 1 million. Yeah.

53. The toilet seat only moves when you move it.

54. Divorce is pricey.

55. You don’t have to deal with “compliment fishing.”

56. Fewer minutes spent with a phone attached to your ear.

57. No endless nagging.

58. You never have to answer the phone “right now!”

59. No doubts or worries about someone being unfaithful.

60. You can meditate and have your quiet time when you need it.

61. You can shower or bathe when you want, as often as you want, for as long as you want.

62. The longer you wait, the better you know yourself, instead of someone else.

63. Children learn how to treat themselves by watching how you treat yourself.

64. A bad relationship is like a lingering knife wound- it continues to ruin your whole day.

65. You decide how long it takes to get ready.

66.. No worries of whether the relationship will float or sink.

67. Your weekend plans and projects are up to you.

66.  Being single and staying single isn’t selfish. It should be seen as putting your happiness first (Where it should be.)

Mercy & Love

4 Feb

Story taken from Paulo Coehlo’s writing(s):

During his pilgrimage to Mecca, a holy man began to feel the presence of God.

In the midst of a trance he knelt down, hid his face and prayed:
“Lord, I ask for only one thing in life: that I be given the grace of never offending you.”

“I cannot grant you that grace,” answered the Almighty. ‘If you don’t offend me I shall have no reason to pardon you.

” If I have no need to pardon you, soon you will also forget the importance of mercy towards others.

“So go on your way with Love and let me grant pardon now and again so that you don’t forget that virtue as well.”

Feeling the Love As I Approach a New Age.

4 Feb

On Feb 3rd, I had turned 29… Thus far, life has flown by sooo quickly… I still remember turning 10 as if it was a few years back… Life is such a blur… But the clear  elements that define life, are your loved ones… I thank God for all the love that surrounds me….

Interpreter of Maladies ~Jhumpa Lahiri

3 Feb

“While the astronaut heroes forever spent mere hours on the moon, I have remained in this new world for nearly thirty years.  I know that my achievement is quite ordinary.  I am not the only man to seek his fortune far from home, and certainly I am not the first.  Still, there are times I am bewildered by each mile I have traveled, each meal eaten, each person I have known, each room which I have slept.  As ordinary as it all appears, there are times when it is beyond my imagination.”

Now to put a Valentines twist to this….  Think about it, all the  people you have come across in your journey through life… The number of people who have made you smile, cry, get angry… Family, friends, lovers, teachers, students, all these people provided insight and impression  to the heart… Think about it…… As long as your alive, the numbers will increase..

~~How to Love Me~~

2 Feb

A month ago, as I was walking through Barnes & Nobles with a group of my girl friends, we discovered that the Valentines table was now in display.  On the table- various books, ornaments, questionnaires, and hallmark inspired material.  With coffee in one hand, and embarrassed smile, we giggled over the countless sappy one-liners displayed in all the books.  Although the giggles were meant to be condescending, each one of us bared true thoughts in our nervous eyes…. “I wonder if I can get any pointers through any of these books”.. With hesitance, my fingers brushed the cover of all the different books, “How to Find Love For Dummies”, “Crazy In Love Poetry”, “A Geeks guide to Karma Sutra”, “He Loves Me He Loves Me Not”… and there it was-  the little black book!  That little black book was titled, “How to Love Me”..

Years ago, I had carried a black book for myself and at the time, “signficant other”… It was my way of writing out my thoughts, questions, hopes and aspirations… On a special day, I gave the little black book to the one I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with… It was probably one of the most romantic and thoughtful investments I had ever made.. A thrifty gift it was, yet within each page, a prolific degree of authenticity & care…   Each page was decorated with questions, ideas,  poems, you name it!  That little black book was a personal idea.  It was my way of building a bridge between two people.  I often wondered, did anyone else share this genius idea??? Well,  years later,  Barnes & Noble is carrying the little black book :D.

Back to my girl friends and I…. After seeing the little black book, with an obnoxious smile  and a Vanna White gesture, I held the book up for everyone to see.  The girls looked at me as if I had three different heads.. “Nice, Amna”…  Sheepishly, I had placed the book back into its display case.. Walking away, I contemplated “should I buy it?”…  Fast forward, two weeks later, I march back into Barnes & Nobles, and with confidence, purchase the book.  Ten dollars for a black journal that already had  pages of great questions and room for more.  I might be single, but it’s never too early to write  to my soul mate!

In my opinion,  whether you are single or with someone, one should carry a journal. It’s a great way to write out and discover what it is you love in God, life, in yourself, in others.  Eventually, that journal becomes your guide in finding Mr/s. Right.   Whether the person is in your life or not, eventually s/he will be!  So it’s never too early to begin writing out your thoughts.  Communication is the most important factor between two love birds.  When two people merge their lives together, they literally merge their souls together… It’s best to have a relationship that is built on strong communication, honesty, and love… and the little black book is a wonderful instrument for building that bond!

And to set the record straight, I’m not a sales person for Ali Davis’ books.